PART 1 of 3: THE LIMBO BREAKDOWN…
I could literally hear the crickets in my head as I sat down to write this, my first ever blog post. It’s more nerve-wracking than I thought it was going to be.
My first draft sounded like I was some sort of self-help wizard that could impart all knowledge. As if me, a twenty-six-year-old with a Master’s degree and not a ton of job prospects had all of the answers on life. For my second draft, I leaned towards being extremely professional explaining in very thorough yet dull detail the point of a life Itinerary. But a Life Itinerary truly boils down to these three major things…
The fact is, the point of this blog relates to anyone who, like myself questions, “Am I living my life the way I truly want? And if not, how do I start?” I’m like you trying to figure it out as I go. I may not be as much of a life guru but that doesn’t mean I don’t have something to offer you. Yes, YOU the person reading this curious as to what I am rambling on about. Which brings me to draft number three (third time’s a charm, right?). The lesson learned from draft one and two, just keep it real. So in the spirit of keeping it real I want to break down the concept of being stuck in Limbo.
OK, SO WHAT IS LIMBO?
“Being stuck in Limbo basically means you’re stagnant between where or who you are in this moment of your life, versus where you’re trying to go and who you’re trying to be.”
I am someone who would constantly make plans to start working towards my life goals. Only to get unmotivated, or you know have that random life obstacle pop up and knock me down a few pegs. Being stuck in limbo became somewhat of a new normal. So I know a little something something about how it can affect you. It holds you back from being your best self. Or keeps you from evolving and growing as a person. It keeps you from achieving your goals, hindering you from doing the things you want to do. It stops you from taking the best path. Or causes you to go about things in a way you know you shouldn’t be. It can have different impacts on your relationships. It can stifle you from expressing yourself in whatever way you crave. And sometimes you’re even unaware you’re in limbo to begin with.
You may be reading this and thinking well damn, that’s a lot to deal with. But, yeah there’s a never-ending list of ways you can find yourself consumed in your version of the sunken place. The thing is you need to fight like hell not to stay trapped in it.
WHY YOU MAY BE IN LIMBO
There’s a link between aspects of our personality and our circumstance that play a part in the Limbo we’re in, and both affect the components of our lives.
As I started to navigate through my new normal I realized my functioning hermit tendencies held me back. Now it’s ok to be a functioning hermit if you’re content and happy. It becomes a problem when being one literally conflicts with almost all of the things you want for your life. The relationships in my life were affected. My overall health began to deteriorate, especially as my struggle with anxiety got serious. It affected my career goals and the things I wanted to achieve. And most importantly it affected how I viewed myself. At the same time, my resourcefully frustrated circumstance of not having the means to do the things I wanted to do both personally and professionally weighed on me heavily. Your girl was stuck in such a depressing and unhappy place. It became so overwhelming and hopeless I felt there was nothing I could do about it.
But as time went on, I had to man up and give myself a reality check. That way of thinking was not going to fly or make my life any better. From there as I slowly started to work on myself, I also started to pay more attention to those around me (you know in the spirit of trying to not be a hermit). It dawned on me that everyone has their own thing they struggle with. You might be thinking “duh, of course they do.” But I was in my feelings and having a moment ok! It’s weird because when you’re in a bad place you think you’re the only one and no one understands.
WHAT HAPPENS NOW?
“I had my Oprah “aha” moment where I thought to myself (of course sounding just like Oprah’s voice) ‘you’re not alone in being stuck, everyone has their own limbo.’
And now I’m living out as I speak (or type…lol) part of my limbo strategy to overcome…I started a blog! I still can’t believe it sometimes, me the girl who likes to chill in the background. Or hates putting herself out there. And has no clue about how to really use social media. But the time has come for me to break out of the shell (yelling Diana Ross loud and proud)! I’m ready for us to embark on this journey together. It may be borderline after school special, but it’s real and it’s true. When you’re making moves to live your best life, you have to be aware of what holds you back. Then find the best strategy to overcome the BS you face! And that’s what I want to help you with!
Let’s discover what your Limbo is and tell it to square up so you can knock the hell out of it!
CHECK OUT PART 2 of the Life Itinerary Intro Series about the 9 Components of the Life Itinerary….coming soon!
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And remember to NEVER stop striving for the life you want to lead…no matter what!!!